“Self-care is giving the world the best of you, instead of what’s left of you.” — Katie Reed
With those few words, YOU can create an impact in your life. How often do you go to sleep worn out and unhappy with yourself? For me, it’s pretty often. We are known as our greatest critics. We tend to come down on ourselves a lot more and are so hard on ourselves when it comes to being the best we can be. But, often we wear ourselves out in the process.
For me as a mom, “self-care” isn’t in my daily routine, it’s actually far from it. What is self-care, anyways? Is it heading to the hair salon to freshen up your do? Splurging on a new designer handbag? Or is it even just 5 minutes of peace in quiet in the morning so you can drink your coffee hot?
I think for us women, self-care may mean something different for all of us. For me, I have never been high maintenance. I could be ok with not having painted nails for months on end, or not wearing makeup while heading out with the family. Shoot, I can’t even remember when the last time I bought myself a nice outfit to make myself feel pretty.
As a homemaker and mama, I tend to put all my energy towards the kids, and my home, and my husband. I don’t put myself first, and because of that, I am worn out. Daily. Self-Nurturing is pretty intimidating. Especially if you constantly read those articles that encourage you to spend a few moments for yourself, like maybe taking a bubble bath, or heading out for a run, or saving money and splurging on your physical self. I read these articles all the time, and heck yeah, they all sound so wonderful, but in the back of my mind, I always say “Oh, I’ll try that next week.” Or “I wish I had time for that today, but Ethan has practice, and I need to go grocery shopping.” and I always find myself back to my same daily routine.
Now don’t get me wrong, I get plenty of quiet time, to write, to rejuvenate, and to unwind. Especially when my kids cooperate, and take a nap or head to bed early. But, my biggest struggle is finding the motivation to do more with my time, and finding my self-love again. I can go a whole day and accomplish everything on my list, sure it feels good. But I still find myself trying to improve some aspects of my life. I never seem good enough for myself. I’m sure many of you have felt this way, on a daily basis, or every once in a while, but it’s a struggle most of us have faced. If we all took the time to be kind to ourselves, could you imagine how much more we could blossom into as a person?
I feel like, we as humans continually want to improve or change something within ourselves, and we swear that would be our key to happiness. Like, “If I had a bigger house, my life would be so much easier, and we would be so much happier.” OR “If I could have that perfect bikini body, you know how much happier I would really be?”
Don’t get me wrong, changes are good. But, start off with small changes. Changes that will motivate you to get up in the morning, and work towards your ultimate dream. If you work towards those dreams and do it in such a way that isn’t your authentic self, are you even accomplishing anything? You want to make sure, that whatever it is you have your heart and mindset to, you do it right. You do it with a kind heart, and you don’t rush what is meant to be.
Let’s just say; you’re unhappy with your home decor. Don’t you just wish you could go out and splurge on all new things in that moment? Instead of being overwhelmed with the unhappiness of your home, spend a few minutes to yourself on Pinterest and get ideas of how you envision your home to look like and start off by rearranging some items or furniture around to have something new. And slowly work on replacing whatever household items you desire.
Or, for example. Let’s just say you got a new camera for your birthday or Christmas, and you want to become a professional photographer. It’s not going to happen overnight. Instead, why don’t you take up some night time classes or even take an hour out of your day to play around with your settings and camera outside and practice. After all, practice does make perfect.
As for my struggles, I struggle with motivation. I can get my daily tasks done, but if they are being forced because I’m pushing myself to my limit, I’m unhappy and most likely grumpy. Most mornings, I used to start off in my pajamas drinking my coffee, and when I do that, I find it harder to actually get up and start doing something productive. As A full-time homemaker and mom, I know that lounging around all day in your pj’s while watching reruns of your favorite show is really tempting, and that’s where I struggle. So, I took it upon myself to change my routine up a little bit; I find waking up an hour and a half before my entire household (even if it means 5 am in the morning), helps me prepare for our day.
Most days, I will get up, drink my coffee, respond to emails, read a book, or even take a shower. But that hour and a half to myself in the morning brings my heart so much peace. I find myself more relaxed once the kids are awake, and I feel ready for the day. But, my biggest change of all, is that as soon as I get up in the morning, I have forced myself out of my pajamas and into something that makes me feel good about myself. I put on shoes, and for the last week, I have been doing my makeup in the morning. This a huge change, because for me, I never thought the way I felt about myself physically would change my mentality in my everyday. I’ve noticed if I spend a few minutes even brushing my hair and putting it up, I feel more motivated and ready to take on the day.
Self-care is a struggle I feel like I will always have, but believe me when I say if you want your life to change for the better, only YOU can make that change. Noone else. Today, make a list of 5 things you can do to change up your routine to put your needs first. Start off by changing one thing a day, and stick with it for a while, and ask yourself “Is this making me a better person?”